Meet your secret weapon that will help you identify your kinky limits without overwhelm.

Just $47!


"Working with Kelly Noel has been life-changing."

I've been coaching with Kelly Noel for 6 months. I've released fear, anxiety... so much of what I've been holding onto, and I feel so light. I feel on the verge of a great relationship, and I'm loving myself more than ever before!


- Paul N., Creator & Podcaster

What's inside...

Everything you need to confidently explore kink/BDSM... finally.

Better BDSM Limit List Spreadsheet
Valued at $47
  • 275+ inventory items, pre-sorted into four "intensity levels" and seven activity categories 
  • Several trauma-sensitive features, including filters and spots to list triggers
  • Basic info sheet with dropdown menus to share key info with new partners (e.g., pronouns, medical concerns)
  • Google Sheet + Airtable options for the limit list


Limit List Implementation Guide
Valued at $47
  • Workbook + video walk-through to EASILY turn your completed limit list into FUN sexy scenes 
  • Guidelines for negotiation conversations (for pickup play AND with regular partners)
  • Step-by-step process to help reduce the overwhelm


BONUS: Kinky Resource Guide
Retail Value: $9
  • Includes 30+ toys, sorted by kink/fetish, rated based on usability, accessibility, and other features
  • Links to ethical & inclusive businesses so you feel good about where your dollars are going
  • Sections for costumes and lingerie, accessories, and must-have aftercare items


Beginner-friendly tutorials and checklists help you get started quickly

Trauma-sensitive filters reduce nervous system overwhelm

Spreadsheet magic helps you update and negotiate like a pro


Customers are saying...
Barb C.
Former Client

"I came to Kelly Noel when my self-esteem was low and I needed spiritual rejuvenation. The last year has been nothing short of wonderful. Kelly Noel takes care of their clients; they're young, but an old soul."

Joey S.
Coach & Educator


"Kelly Noel exceeded my expectations and did an amazing job making me feel comfortable talking about sensitive issues. Since my session, I’ve already had much better communication, better sex, and more self-confidence."

Stop stressing and start sceneing.

Watch our walkthrough video to see the limit list in action! 

Let's recap...

Better BDSM Limit List ($47 value): 2-page spreadsheet template with 275+ presorted inventory items, filters, and other trauma-sensitive features to minimize nervous system overwhelm.

Limit List Implementation Guide ($47 value): Video tutorials teaching you to use your limit list to create a sexy scene. Includes real-talk strategies to prep scenes and provide effective aftercare.

Ultimate Kinkmas Shopping List ($17 value): Reviews of 30+ must-have toys, plus a list of other scene necessities. Links to ethical sex shops so you feel good about where your money is going.

Just who made this limit list thing?

Hi there! My name is Kelly Noel Zeva, and I'm a former Catholic goody-two-shoes turned energy healer, kink/BDSM coach, and erotic novelist. After healing a lot of my own harmful beliefs about sex, relationships, and body autonomy, I decided to become the coach and educator I wished I'd had.


I've been helping people heal from sexual trauma since 2019, and I've also introduced several people to kink/BDSM during that time, too. (I claim it's my kinky superpower. 


But one thing made my job more difficult. I didn't have a way to help my clients who have suffered from sexual trauma get clear on what kinks they wanted to explore... in a way that didn't overwhelm and frighten them.


So, I zipped up my leather boots and made the Better BDSM Limit List for them... and for you.


Your questions, answered.

  • How long do I have access to these materials?
    Indefinitely! When you purchase Better BDSM Limit Listâ„¢, you'll receive access to ALL the digital content, including the bonuses and product updates, without paying another penny. You can use the money that you save on "sexy time" toys and gear instead.
  • I'm completely new to kink/BDSM. Will I still be able to use this product?
    Absolutely! I created Better BDSM Limit List™ with beginners specifically in mind. There's also a series of simple walkthrough videos that completely explain how to use the spreadsheet template. Third, within the spreadsheet, there's also four intensity categories.  If you are new to kink/BDSM, I recommend looking at the ‘Mild’ category to begin with.
  • I'm very experienced with BDSM and already have a limit list. How is this better than what I use right now?
    Great question! I created the Better BDSM Limit Listâ„¢ because I wanted a better list for myself and my clients that wasn't so overwhelming. Unlike other lists I've come across, this limit list has filters, and sortable categories so you can more easily find what you're looking for in your list or a partner's list. This feature is especially handy when you (or a partner) have triggers around specific activities. You can also more effectively "chunk" your time spent on identifying/updating your limits because you can sort and filter the 275+ inventory items on the Better BDSM Limit List.

    Second, I'm always soliciting feedback on how I can make this product better, and often it's from folx who have decades of practicing and teaching about kink/BDSM, i.e., people who know their shit. If they think it has value, I'm confident you will, too.
  • I don't have a partner. What value will I find in this product?
    Definitely! Even if you don’t have a partner, you can absolutely still explore and experience kink/BDSM. In fact, I first joined the kink community when I was single, and identifying my limits was a first important step for me to feel safe playing with others. You'll also have ongoing access to this product, so you can always revisit the Better BDSM Limit List™ at a later date when you do have a partner.
  • Do you accept refunds?
    Due to the digital nature of this product—and that you can define your limits in just 30 minutes—we do not offer refunds of any kind after purchase. We LOVE receiving feedback and are committed to making this product the best it can be; if there are features you’d like us to add to the limits list, simply let us know! In all reality, once you go through this program, you'll think 'referral' more than 'refund.' We pay a 40% commission to our affiliates on all our products and self-paced courses, so you can make LOTS of money.
  • I have another question not listed here.
    Great! I'm a curious soul myself, and as an educator at-heart, I love answering questions. Simply send an email to kellynoelzeva@gmail.com and I'll respond to your inquiry within 2-3 business days.

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The Safer Scene Worksheets

Add this to your order for just $9!
Create sexier scenes faster AND easier with the EXACT questions to ask (and answer!) during negotiation. Great for solo play, partnered kink/BDSM, and group scenes. Thanks to these fillable PDF worksheets, you'll walk away with a blueprint for scenes that increase pleasure and connection in less than 40 minutes. Trauma? No problem! With The Safer Scene Worksheets, you'll navigate consent, scene preparation & de-briefs, AND have backup plans.

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